Doing things for your children in the name of love has different dimensions to it. Doing things that your children are capable of doing is not showing love. We all frown at over pampering but often indulge in it unknowingly. Most times some parents cannot even differentiate love from over pampering. Yes, pampering your children is acceptable. Who would not want to be pampered? However, it becomes an issue when you over pamper. Besides, when parents over pamper their children, it has the tendency of making them dependent, weak and incapable of handling simple matters.
In a family, an over pampered child usually becomes demanding and wanting everything. However, giving them everything they want, further makes them controlling and ungrateful. This usually leads to a dangerous sense of entitlement in the child. While the parents in a misplaced endeavour to show love, sacrifice everything to give their children their every need and desire. Unfortunately, when they are unable to do that, the child acts up.
Over pampering can be destructive. Children would not be able reach their full potentials if over pampered. You tend to over-do things for them because you do not want them to suffer. You are at their beck and call because you feel you owe them for bringing them into this world.
You do things for them because you assume they would not be able to handle things.
You defend them because you feel they would not be able to defend themselves.
What do you think would happen to them if you are not there ?
Do you think they would not survive?
Do you think they would not move on with their lives?
Do not wait to see the end, but rather train them to be independent, capable and reliable.
When your children want you to do something for them do not be angry or too willing. If it is something they can do, kindly support and guide them to accomplish that task. Guide them to have a sense of responsibility and experience the satisfaction of completing a task. It is up to us to train and monitor them. They should not be left alone until they are able to get things right. Love your children unconditionally. Raise them appropriately but remember that the world will not pamper them when they grow up.