A woman’s body is never the same after childbirth; not the same from a certain age, childbearing or not. One of the worst things any husband could do to his wife is to be repulsed by her body and make degrading remarks about her body or specific parts of her body. A man that was initially attracted by his wife’s body should keep loving her, despite changes that occur with time. The body of most women stay firm until nature takes its toll, mostly from childbearing and age.
Body shaming of women in marriage is a form of betrayal. It could lead to resentment, interfere with intimacy, and even damage the mental health of the person experiencing body shame. Some wives find it difficult to do the needful during the day or when the lights are on because of how they feel about their bodies. Consequently, a good husband should not add salt to injury with body shaming.
There are a few body alteration surgeries some women undergo to get back a firm body despite the pain and adverse side effects. These include liposuction, hip lipectomy, breast implants and so on. These body alteration procedures, according to some women who have gone under the knife, are very painful and can lead to death.
Some women engage in these surgeries to get a firm, curvy body because of comments made by their spouses while some do it to feel good about themselves or truth be told, impress their fellow women. However, the remarks from their spouses do the most harm whether said unintentionally, sarcastically or jokingly.
Yes, some reactions to mentions about our bodies might be attributed to low self-esteem or lack of confidence but please who won’t feel bad when derogatory statements are made about something that one can not alter or modify naturally?
Men should learn to appreciate and adore their wife’s bodies. “Tell your wife how attractive you still find her. You are, supposedly the closest person to her spiritually and otherwise. Body shaming her will destroy who she is. Devaluing her being after those beautiful children is wickedness. Condemning a specific body part is murderous. Desist from anything that would degrade your wife.